As you get older, it is time for you to realize that the perfect person is not just going to fall right into your lap. As tragic a realization as that is, it is something that you have to accept. Finding someone to live happily ever with takes a little bit of effort. With the demands and busy schedules that fill the days, meeting an attractive, intelligent, compatible woman by chance can be difficult. Luckily, there are many avenues set up with the purpose of making it easier to meet and connect with others. Many people have resorted to online dating services like Match.com and Tinder.
While these services do make it easier to meet people and decide on compatibility before every going on a real date, impressions made over online profiles can often be off target. Speed dating is an efficient alternative that lets you meet and interact with potential dates, in person. Even better, they allow you to meet and engage with a large number of women in a short period of time, maximizing your opportunity to experience a spark. Speed dating still comes with its fair share of challenges so keep these tips in mind before delving into the game.
Making A First Impression
Speed dating is appealing because it does not require you to dedicate an entire date to someone that you have realised you are not interested in during the first few minutes. However, at the same time speed dating relies on powerful first impressions. Be mindful to ask the right questions and say the right things. Prepare material beforehand so that you are not fumbling for things to say.
Be different and stand out from others around you.
Instead of asking questions like “what do you do for a living?” or saying “tell me about yourself,” reach for something more. Ask them “what is the most exciting thing you have done, recently?” These types of questions will lead to a memorable conversation making it more likely that you will stand out in their mind.
Say A Proper Goodbye
Speed dating can make you feel rushed. When the time is up and you are to move onto the next date, do not get lost in the shuffle and scurry away without saying goodbye. This gives the impression that you are just there to meet anyone, not taking the time to personalize each individual encounter. Take an extra 30 seconds to express that you enjoyed your brief time together. This move alone could be the difference-maker
Many people get the impression that if you have resorted to speed dating that there may be some quality that makes you undesirable. This is far from the truth and a big misconception. While on each of your dates, maintain and exude confidence.
You have plenty of qualities that make you attractive and dateable. Know what these qualities are and own them.
Women are attracted to confidence in men. As they sense this trait they will be curious to know more about you. Give them just enough information about yourself to peak their interest but keep a sense of mystery to spark their desire to find out more.
When speed dating you need to exhibit the perfect balance of showing off what you have to offer while being genuine and down-to-earth. Many people that attend these events come armed with material to the point where they is no more than reading off a script. While it is good to have a plan in mind, it is even more important to be yourself. Be the most impressive version of yourself.
Dress For The Occasion
Look your best. You should not think of this event as a date but rather 15 to 20 first dates. That means you need to be dressed well and looking sharp. With such a short time to make an impression, each person will make judgments based on your appearance. Make sure that you look put-together and clean so that she sees that you take care of yourself.
Each short date is a chance to get to know the person across the table rather than an opportunity to showcase yourself.
Ask questions, pay attention, listen.
Expressing genuine interest in the things that each person is saying is an attractive quality that they will remember.Speed dating is the perfect way to maximize your time and increase your chances of meeting someone that gets your heart racing. Each date, however, is accompanied by a time limit making it crucial that you are on your best game. In speed dating, each second counts.
Use these tips to as you prepare to ensure that you are ready to take full advantage of the opportunity.