One of the most confusing  hurdles during dating is determining if a girl you want to date is flirting with you… or not.

That confusion happens because the subtle expression of a girl’s flirtation are often completely missed by men, who look for more direct, straightforward flirting signs.

Next time you find yourself wondering whether or not you have a chance with a girl, look for these 7 common signs of flirting:

  • Her Voice

One of the best ways to determine if a girl is flirting is to listen to the tone and speed of her voice. Girls usually don’t speak to their girlfriends in high-pitched tones… usually their tones are slightly deep and mellow.

When a girl speaks to a guy she finds attractive, she’ll often subconsciously raise the pitch of her voice (in an attempt to appear more feminine), and her adrenaline makes her speak noticeably faster.

So does her voice become more high-pitched and fast paced?

If so, she’s definitely flirting

  • Touching

She’ll show her interest with a romantic touch (on your shoulder, middle back or knee). She might also place her hand on your arm while you’re having an intimate conversation… or playfully shove you and giggle if you tease her.

Ask yourself what kind of touching it is.


  • She gives you intense eye contact

Intensely holding eye contact is a surprisingly intimate action, and is one of the most commonly missed flirting signs.

Naturally, we seem to hold eye contact longer with people we like.

If a girl looks at you for 2-3 seconds on average, she’s most likely very into you.


  • Her Smile

If the girl you like smiles at you and her cheeks visibly lift, it’s almost certainly a genuine smile… meaning she’s very likely interested in you.

Girls will laugh/smile more in general at guys who they are interested in. If she laughs at all your jokes (even if they’re not that funny), she’s into you.


  • Her Body Language

A simple way to tell whether she’s flirting with you is to subtly shift your position (cross your legs/arms, scratch your stomach, yawn). People tend to mimic the behaviors of people they’re attracted to… it’s an social tactic to ‘fit in’.

If she replicates your movements she’s unconsciously showing interest. If she misses your cues, her attention is elsewhere.

Another quick and easy way to see if she’s interested is to look at which direction her feet are pointing. Unintentionally, people point their feet at what they want or what they’re focused on.


  • She shows you her hands

Hands are a way that people get attention (waving, clapping, touching), so if she likes you, she’ll subconsciously move her hands to attract you.

Is she playing with her hair as the two of you talk, twirling it around one of her fingers? Is she touching her mouth in any way as she’s smiling and listening to you? If so, She is into you.


  • She Talks a lot

If the flow of conversation between you is quick and effortless, it’s a really strong sign that she likes you.


  • Natural Flirt

This type of woman will show all the signs of flirting listed above, but is most likely not interested in you (she just enjoys people, and flirting). She’s either unaware of what she’s doing, or she loves the attention she gets from flirting.

Many men will mistake a natural flirt’s love of conversation for genuine interest, and waste a lot of time trying to get her attention.

Watch how she interacts with other guys. Is she flirting with everyone in the room, moving from one conversation to the next? If so, her interest is not genuine. 


I hope this breakdown can help men recognize when a woman is flirting.

Thank you for reading