What if I told you someone did find a way to “categorize” your love style ?
Prepare yourself for some soul searching because you might just be:
The Conflicted, but Passionate
This is the couple Facebook made the “It’s Complicated” relationship status for. Their levels of commitment tend to go up and down over time, especially after arguments. But that’s not necessarily a bad thing. They use conflicts to help them make decisions about the relationship, and in fact, they didn’t appear to be any more destined for a breakup than any of the other groups.
Also, as a bonus, they tend to follow those turbulent downs with passionate ups. These couples operate in a tension between conflict that pushes them apart and passionate attraction that pulls them back together.
If your idea of a perfect date night is a long walk followed by eight hours of binge-watching “House of Cards” together, you might fall into this category.
Partner-focused couples tend to spend a lot of time together and share hobbies or leisure activities, and it’s that shared time that tends to propel them forward. They tended to be more careful and thoughtful about their relationship decisions — more likely to build from the inside out — and tended to be the most satisfied overall.
The Social Butterflies
On the other hand, if your perfect evening with your partner involves grabbing all your friends and hitting the bars, this might be the category that best describes you. Social couples usually share a friend group and use that time spent with friends to inform and build their relationship as a couple.
Having mutual friends makes people in these couples feel closer and more committed. They also tended to be pretty stable and have higher levels of love based on feelings of friendship toward each other, which can be a good indicator for long-term happiness.
Unfortunately, not every couple’s path is easy. Things may start out good, but tend not to stay that way for dramatic couples. This type of couple tends to make decisions based on negative experiences or stuff from outside the relationship.
These couples have a lot of ups and downs, and their commitment swings wildly. You begin to see little things eroding, and you start to see the relationship in a negative light, and soon you give up.
Perhaps unsurprisingly, dramatic couples tended to break up the most, twice as much as other couples.
Different couples work and grow differently. These are different pathways and it’d be a mistake to assume there’s a “correct” way to love someone. Or even that you’re forever locked into a certain style of relationships.
And even in a single relationship, these patterns aren’t predictors of destiny. A dramatic couple may, in fact, outlast a social one, and a partner-driven couple may be as passionate as anyone you could ever meet.