Attraction is a unique concept that is shaped by personal likes and dislikes. These preferences are mainly formed from years of experience, education and environmental influences. Attraction is a curious thing, the magic between two people is based on many factors but it cannot fully be explained in many cases.

Of course you can be physically attractive, but people are also attracted to the passion, personality, charisma, confidence etc. of another person.

There are a number of factors you can control that have power over just how attractive you are by the opposite sex. I have put an example of these for you below;


Facial and physical characteristics are the first things that you notice and judge a person on when meeting them. These characteristics are even more important if you are analysing a man or women as a potential mate. This theory points towards the existence of certain facial features and body shapes which we find are to be attractive. However, this emphasis on facial symmetry neglects many other facets of physical attraction and is quite limited in scope. It’s important to remember that your looks are not the most important thing in the world when it comes to attraction. Besides, hitting the gym and lowering your body fat along with getting some nice clothes and a good haircut can go a long way in improving your appearance.


Personality is promoted as the most important aspect of attraction. In many ways, this statement is impossible to argue with. Similar to appearance, what people desire from another person when it comes to personality is variable and heavily reliant upon past experience. There are some traits which are seen as important when it comes to the personality. These characteristics include: honesty, humour, confidence, kindness and leadership. It is likely that a number of factors have influenced the importance of these qualities. . Alternatively, there are many personalities and characteristics which can destroy attraction between people. The type of person you are attracted to largely depends on how they behave. What a person would do for another human being in different situations will determine whether they are a good man or woman and that may very well be the defining factor in attraction.


The most desirable thing about someone is how available they are. Would you agree? But hold on there, this isn’t the same as how in demand they are. Humans don’t always absorb each other, and stalking someone isn’t the same as dating them, it is quite possible for someone to be very much in demand but still available, at least in some sense. It might sound stupid, but the best way to communicate availability is by demonstrating it. Walk up to people; start a conversation, make a connection. Showing up is just not enough!

Body Language

People respond far better to open body language than to any hairstyle or series of incisive comments. Opening up the torso and chest indicates availability, whereas crossing your arms, holding a glass in front of you, or staring down at your smartphone doesn’t. When we can’t see someone’s hands, we implicitly assume they are hiding something, and we try to distrust them. As long as you do all of the following you should not have a problem;

  • Wash/maintain good personal hygiene
  • Be kind/personable/agreeable
  • Initiate conversations
  • Keep your hands above the table

Thank you for reading. 🙂